At 23, I often feel like I’m caught in a tug of war between two opposing forces: the freedom of being single and the loneliness that sometimes comes with it. On one side, I love that I can make my own decisions, pursue my passions, and live life without compromise. On the other, there’s a deep-seated longing for companionship, for someone to share the highs and lows with.
It’s not always easy to reconcile these feelings. There are moments when I revel in the joy of being unattached. I love that I can focus on my career, travel when I want, and nurture my friendships without feeling like I have to split my attention between someone else and myself. Yet, those quiet moments—when I’m alone with my thoughts—often remind me of the absence of a partner. I yearn for that emotional connection, for someone who understands me on a deeper level.
Being single is not a bad thing, but it does come with challenges. It can feel like there’s a clock ticking, with society constantly reminding me that I should be “settling down.” I’ve learned not to let that pressure define me, but the loneliness remains a constant undercurrent.
I’ve come to see this phase of my life as a balancing act. I’m learning to embrace the freedom while acknowledging that it’s okay to want love and companionship. Both feelings are valid, and neither makes me less worthy. I know that love will come when the time is right, but for now, I’m trying to find peace in the present.
